Detours Part 2 of 2

Last week we looked at one tool that helps us navigate life’s detours: Pull Over and Pause. Today, let’s look at how we can lean into our relationships when things go sideways.

Focus On Your Traveling Companions

When our circumstances take a turn to the unexpected, it’s easy to focus on the external forces or ourselves instead of the people who are journeying with us. However, when we do this, we miss wonderful opportunities. Here are a few ways to focus on the people around you when life goes sideways.

           1. Spouse/Partner: This detour is a time to support and encourage your spouse. They will need your wise counsel, prayer, comfort, and laughter to strengthen them to face the challenges of this time. Can you schedule an hour this week of face to face time to check-in with your spouse/partner? Here are a couple questions you can ask them:

  • What is going well in your life right now?
  • What is one of the biggest challenges you are facing?
  • How can I support you?

           2. Children: Our lives are on display every day for our children. When trials and difficulty come, we have a unique opportunity to model behavior for them and shepherd our children through the bumps. Take some time to talk with them, encourage them, and hold them close. Here are a couple ideas to get you going:

  • Set aside an hour to play with your child. Let them pick the activities.
  • Plan their favorite meal. Over dinner ask them the questions listed above.

           3. Friends/Neighbors: You are not alone! Lean into your communities and friendships. Ask for wise counsel & prayer, enjoy fellowship, and allow them to encourage you. Are there others who are facing challenges? You can comfort and encourage them even in the midst of your detour, so keep your eyes open. Need an idea to get going?

  • With social distancing in effect, write a note of encouragement and tape it to a neighbor’s front door.
  • Plan a driveway cookout. Everyone can eat with their families in the driveway and visit while staying safe!

No matter what life throws at you today, remember you are not alone!